Nearly out of school, and it feels like my mother is trying to control my life. Try to talk and she always just...

My mother was exactly the same, she always thought she knew what was best for me and wanted to force her view of my life should go and how wrong I was living it out. I struggled with her opinions/criticisms of me and my own views about how I wanted to life my life.

I would try to get advice from different friends or from my dad, (they were no longer together), and sometimes the advice made since other times it didn't. So I decided to write down what I felt in my heart was important to me. Then I prayed about it and started speaking life-changing words of wisdom to myself everyday. So that I could cancel out the negative comments and replace them with positive ones.

I then stated to my mother that she was given the same gift I have, and if she made mistakes, or didn't live it to the fullest, then that was on her. I have a gift that I really appreciate and will cherish this gift and become who I was created to be. Did she respond favorablly, No, but she understood that I was growing up and that she could not stop it. We still have differences of opinion, especially when it comes to child rearing, and I understand that we always will. That is what makes us all unique and special at the same time.

Don't allow her comments to persuade you to choose goals that please her. Instead really listen to what she is saying, (try to take all the emotions out of it), and don't get in a tit-for-tat with her. You can't control what comes out of her mouth or head any more than she can control what comes out of yours. Take away from the discussion what you need to help you grow/mature as a person and what doesn't fit disregard.

Noone can live your life for you, and noone can do to you what you don't allow them to do. Take control of your life respect the views of your mom and tell her how much you appreciate them, but this gift of life is yours and you have the right just like her to live it out in a way the you are comfortable with and in a way that pleases GOD. Remember, no matter how hard you try, you can NEVER please everybody all the time--you will die trying if you go there. "Cause when a mans ways pleases the LORD, GOD will make even his enemies be at peace with him" (Holy Bible, Proverbs).

That is a scripture that I often remember and think about when I am faced with a situation where another person is trying to control me. I stand my ground and move when I know it is time to move. Be patient with your mom, love her, respect her, and honor her, but don't allow respect and honor to be perverted in such a way that you do whatever she expects and it causes you to make poor choices in life. Be happy with yourself first, love yourself, and trust GOD--and leave all the consequences to HIM.